Jeff's Thoughts and Writing

Nirvana Baby

Sun, 29 Aug 2010 20:14:00 -0500

Nirvana Baby

leilagarfield: / Bethanienhaus / Berlin Kreuzberg /

Sat, 07 Aug 2010 16:23:18 -0500

leilagarfield:

/ Bethanienhaus / Berlin Kreuzberg /

How to Be Friends with an Introvert

Fri, 06 Aug 2010 02:30:00 -0500

tochaseadream:

annagutermuth:awkwardlyalex:paradigm-of-futility:edgeofdesiiire:christianbale-:toloveandback:hannahiscadaverous:macmankev:thehinduninja, rachel-the-extractor, cherrydarling, kniveschau, operation-overlord, rufustfirefly, thequietworld, pointmanarchitect, frontiercity, paper-girl:

1. If you must drag them to a party, please don’t abandon them.

Don’t go rushing off to catch up with your other friends without including the introvert; the inny will die in a corner.

2. If they actually call and want to talk, listen!

These moments may not come often, since Innies usually work out their problems within their own brains, but that does not mean they are all Bella Swan “suffer in silence” types.

3. Realize that they do want to be alone sometimes.

They may have gone to that party, and even enjoyed it, but they burn out faster than you and need time to recharge alone. The assumption that all introverts are shy really bugs me. This is not always the case. They can be charming, tell jokes, and generally be the life of the party…but for a limited time only.

4. Skip the small talk.

Introverts are reflective beings and enjoy conversations about feelings and debating things like the ontological argument, and whatever interests they have. They can only tolerate chitchat with people they just met or haven’t seen for awhile. If you must tell them your entire jam-packed weekend in detail, check your inny friend for signs of consciousness periodically.

5. Introverts don’t hate people.

They just find them tiring.

6. Introverts are socially aware.

Yes, we are well-versed in social nuances, customs, and mannerisms; we just don’t implement them as frequently as extroverts do.

"People can’t care about you if you don’t let them."

Sat, 31 Jul 2010 10:57:48 -0500

“People can’t care about you if you don’t let them.”

- A Wise Friend

"The world isn’t fair, Calvin.” “I know Dad, but why isn’t it ever unfair in my favor?"

Tue, 20 Jul 2010 09:20:44 -0500

“The world isn’t fair, Calvin.”
“I know Dad, but why isn’t it ever unfair in my favor?”

- Bill Watterson (Calvin and Hobbes) (via pigtailsandcombatboots) (via aerissa) (via wellthatsjustgreat)

Perfectly Imperfect: Solutions to 10 of Life's Biggest Problems

Tue, 20 Jul 2010 09:17:55 -0500

Perfectly Imperfect: Solutions to 10 of Life's Biggest Problems:

By Philip E. Humbert

1. Tunnel vision.
The tendency to focus only on the immediate crisis or sore spot. Under stress, things look worse or more complex than they really are.

Solution: Perspective.
Ask if it will matter in 6 months. Ask what else is going on? How did I create this…

Great list!

l'arte d'arrangiarsi;: Only in the evening

Sun, 18 Jul 2010 00:54:00 -0500

l'arte d'arrangiarsi;: Only in the evening:

It only hurts the most come evening time when you realize there isn’t anyone to come home to, no one to share your mundane day with or whisper your secrets to under your cave of a blanket that’s now just an empty shape of a person you once knew that’s still creased into your sheets. It’s when the…

Sometimes we meet people that we know can fill these voids. Sometimes these people let us down without ever knowing that they have. Sometimes they are cruel and do it because they too hurt. Still we hope. Still we trust. Still we love. Still we search.

I’ll never regret the times I tried and failed. The times that I didn’t put myself out there are the times that I regret the most.

This Omnivore's Dilemma

Mon, 12 Jul 2010 00:32:00 -0500

After a little over three months of running, I hit a plateau with my weight. My waste-line shrank two belt notches but my weight has been similar to when I started. I know that I’ve toned up but I wasn’t getting my weight down to where I felt like it should be.

I decided that my next step should be to work on my diet. Starting with limiting my red-meat intake to two days a week. I also have been trying to eat at least one meatless meal a day. In my first three weeks of changing my diet, I’ve dropped somewhere between 8 and 12 lbs.

Strangely enough, when I attempt to eat red-meat on my cheat days, my stomach has been in knots which is very unfortunate. I was hoping that it was something else but so far it’s a one to one ratio with every meal that I eat with red-meat in it. I’m not sure what to do because I plan to keep eating red-meat. I never would have expected for this to be an issue.

Aside from stomach pains, my energy level has been pretty good so far. I have yet to figure out the right balance with running but I definitely go through stages of being hungry when I eat a veggie-only lunch. I’ve been watching my evening meal to make sure that I’m not over compensating and so far I feel like I’m eating less which is fine.

Next up, I’m going back to one caffeinated beverage a day. I’m drinking at least one glass per meal with an occasional refill. These are just dead calories that I can live without. Last summer I stopped drinking soft drinks at the end of summer and I only started back to drinking them after the first of the year. I’m hoping that this change will help me get half way to my goal weight.

atsween: Just a little batguy.

Sun, 11 Jul 2010 16:06:08 -0500

atsween:

Just a little batguy.

"There is always a way to be honest without being brutal."

Sat, 10 Jul 2010 15:54:17 -0500

“There is always a way to be honest without being brutal.”

- Arthur Dobrin (inspiration minus the cheese)

karlaakins: @whatitsliketodie (Bill’s) Memorial Service will...

Fri, 09 Jul 2010 12:15:12 -0500

karlaakins:

@whatitsliketodie (Bill’s) Memorial Service will will be held on July 18, 2010 (Sunday) at 4:00 p.m. at the Woodland Springs Club House the address is 3535 E 166th Street Carmel, IN (corner of 116th and Lakeshore Dr East). We will be having a light dinner afterward. Please pass the word around tumblr. I don’t know who all followed him.

I’m taking Jake to the service. If you plan on being there, please let me know so I can be sure and connect with you.

If you can’t come, plant some sunflowers in his honor. He’d like that.

If I felt better about the tread on my tires then I’d be up for a weekend road trip to pay my respects. I would have really liked to have met Bill in person.

ventisette: The first ever Disneyland ticket, sold to Walt...

Tue, 06 Jul 2010 23:46:43 -0500

ventisette:

The first ever Disneyland ticket, sold to Walt Disney’s older brother in 1955 for the price of $1.

Such an amazing gesture which I’m curious of most people would do the same in today’s society.

Fascination

Mon, 05 Jul 2010 16:39:17 -0500

I thought this best described my mood until I looked up the definition. Words are funny like that!

the state of being intensely interested (as by awe or terror)
captivation: a feeling of great liking for something wonderful and unusual
the capacity to attract intense interest; “he held the children spellbound with magic tricks and other fascinations”

via Princeton

I Got Id

Sun, 04 Jul 2010 03:13:14 -0500

This is not my finest moment but it takes me back to a day when someone I cared about very deeply cheated on me and forever changed how I felt about the world. It’s funny how one person I used to love and care for so deeply betrayed me in such a way yet I know that they celebrated today. To celebrate such a lie for the rest of their lives.

Thankfully I had friends tonight that were there for me without my having to say why. Someday this holiday will be better. This one will probably get deleted tomorrow.

This is another Pearl Jam song as written by Eddie Vedder.

My lips are shaking my nails are bit off.
Been a month since I’ve heard myself talk.
All the advantage this life’s got on me.
Picture a coffin in the middle of the sea.

And I fight back in my mind. Never lets me be right.
I got memories. I got shit so much it don’t show.

Oh, I walked alive when you held me in that night.
I walked alive when you held my hand that night.

An empty shell seems so easy to crack.
Got all these questions. Don’t know who I could even ask.
So I’ll just lie alone and wait for the dream where I’m not ugly and you’re looking at me.

And I stay in bed. Oh, little ive seen there.
If just once I could feel loved, oh, Stare back at me . Yeah.

But I walked alive when you held me in that night.
Oh, I walked alive when you held my hand that night.
Oh, I walked alive when you held me close that night.
I paid the price. Never held you in real life.
My lips are shaking…

I have very sad news for all who knew whatitsliketodie.

Sat, 03 Jul 2010 02:55:00 -0500

julie911:

Bill died today at 2:35 pm with his brother and all his children by his side.

My condolences to the family.

We loved you, Bill. You were a fine man.

Bill updated daily for quite some time and after three days of radio silence my fears were confirmed tonight. Bill helped change my perspective on life, love, and happiness to many degrees. I felt like he was my tumblr dad even though I never formally met him. If you’ve never read his blog then turn back to the beginning and start. You’ll be a better person for it. My condolences to Bill’s family and friends. http://whatitsliketodie.tumblr.com/

It should have been Black and White

Wed, 23 Jun 2010 01:22:19 -0500

This has been stuck in my head for the last 24 hours and it’s haunting me. Mat Kearney’s City Of Black And White:

‘Cause I don’t want to wait until tomorrow
To tell you how I feel the rest of my life
You don’t want a waste another minute when you realize
Walking on the dark side of the evening
Maybe it was you who opened my eyes
Burning like a fire on the water
The city of black and white
Won’t you just stay
Won’t you just stay

Sometimes I can’t get my head around why I felt the way I did for so long. I’m sure my best realizations are possibly just excuses. Something clicked for me a few months back and it was my moment of brief yet perfect clarity. I don’t know if I’ve ever felt that before in my life.

My past goals enslaved me yet I did not understand how to function without them. Reality was harsher the longer that I tried to push them away to focus. I lost a lot of good years of my life when I should have just stopped sooner knowing that everything would have still worked out for the better. I still feel hurt and resentment at times but I should not have tried to take it all on my shoulders. I could have walked away from the stress points but I didn’t realize that was an option. I was too afraid to fail. I failed regardless.

Father's Day

Mon, 21 Jun 2010 02:25:50 -0500

Calling my father was harder than it should have been today.

"If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a..."

Mon, 07 Jun 2010 08:19:52 -0500

“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”

- John Wooden

Happiness flowchart.

Sun, 06 Jun 2010 16:43:45 -0500

Happiness flowchart.

"A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life."

Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:39:26 -0500

“A woman who cuts her hair is about to change her life.”

- Coco Before Chanel (2009).

(via anatomyofasoul)

(via quote-book)